Looking for positive aspects of your child’s rebellious psychology
Children who have just gone to junior high school have a distinctive feature: “change”.
Physiological changes, the child begins to develop; psychological changes, parents will find that they do not know when the child is disobedient, and may even “talk” to the parents.
If you want east, he will face west; if you want west, he will face east. This phenomenon is called “rebellious psychology” psychologically.
This period is psychologically called the “psychological weaning” period.
How a child’s rebellious psychology arises from entering primary school to middle school is a leap for children.
They think that they are no longer children and adults. Their desire to become independent has become stronger and stronger. They want to have parents again, and make their own names. Instead, they must rely on the family.
Children in this period, due to lack of life experience, do not fully understand self-esteem and strongly demand that others treat them as adults.
If the parents still treat them as children at this time, they will take care of them, and they will verbally “ding”.Opposing emotions will germinate.
If parents discipline them in the presence of their peers and opposite sex, then their “rebellious psychology” will be stronger.
No wonder at this time, many parents often make their children more and more disobedient, do not want to go home all day, do not want to talk to parents, exchange ideas, and do more willful things.
But many children say that parents are annoying all day long and annoying!
This is not allowed, that is not allowed, I really hate it!
Obviously, parents and children are working “against each other.”
At this time, if the parents do not understand the psychological and physical changes of their children, they will simply and rigidly discipline them, which will lead to their children’s resistance and behavior.
How parents treat their children’s rebellious psychology Parents should start from the following three aspects: First, understand the causes of rebellious psychology.
There are three reasons for rebellious psychology.
One is curiosity. For example, the more critics of unhealthy literary and artistic works, the more people want to see them, and they try their best to get them.
This is all due to curiosity.
The second is opposing emotions. Even if you “speak bitterly” and speak thousands of words, he is indifferent, thinking that you are hypocritical and fault-seeking.
The third is a psychological need. Children want to get more and more things they can’t get; more things they can’t reach, more they want to get in touch with them;
This is the general law of people’s psychological development. Because children are less intelligent, this desire is also stronger.
Second, understand the essence of the “psychological weaning” period.
The “psychological weaning” period is a period of transition from childishness to maturity.
Generally speaking, various psychological phenomena during the “psychological weaning” period reflect the psychological progress of children.
From psychological attachment to parents, to the emergence of independence, this is a major change.
When parents want to cherish this period of their children, treat this period correctly and adopt a welcome attitude.
Therefore, parents should see the positive side of rebellious psychology, such as the curiosity that arises from rebellious psychology.
Rebellious psychology often has the characteristics of seeking differences and speculation. It is the spark of children’s wisdom and the source of creation. Parents should pay attention to the situation and make it happen.
Third, good at understanding children.
(1) Parents should see the growth of their children, respect their self-esteem, establish a close and equal relationship with them, and allow children to participate in family management.
(2) Parents should believe that their children have the ability to handle things independently, and support them appropriately. When they encounter difficulties and failures, they should encourage comfort and praise immediately if they succeed.
(3) Parents must have the courage to ask their children for advice, and have the courage to admit their faults.